Harriette Cole: I got up the nerve to ask my crush out. It did not go well.

DEAR HARRIETTE I have fallen in love with a guy at work Related Articles Harriette Cole My partner s excuse is he s tired from work I don t believe him Harriette Cole After this disastrous trip with my co-workers I dread seeing them at work Harriette Cole My roommate just laughs at me when I bring up sponge baths Harriette Cole My friend the influencer is suddenly ignoring me Harriette Cole I m tempted to get back at my husband for the Chili s dinner I love the way he solves problems and how he pays attention to me even when others do not He is so kind and I find myself deeply attracted to him I in the past few days learned that he is gay He hadn t communicated me before It came up when I requested him out I was bold enough to say that I thought there might be something special between us and I sought if he would like to go out with me He thanked me for the invitation and then informed that he is gay I am so disappointed How can I dial back my feelings since they are not reciprocated Just a Friend DEAR JUST A FRIEND Treat this situation as you would any time you are interested in someone who isn t interested in you in the same way It s not that this man doesn t like you It is that he is not romantically attracted to you Sure it can be hard to accept but you can do it Be willing to see the truth for what it is If you can allow yourself to release your heart from your feelings of attraction and learn to be just friends who knows what kind of delightful bond you two can form DEAR HARRIETTE My best friend and I are roommates No one stated me this might be a risky decision but I guess I m learning the hard way Sometimes she can be moody and when she gets that way everyone is subject to her heavy somber icy potency It can be draining If she has a bad day she can t conceal it Maybe she thinks she is hiding it because she doesn t exactly share or burden anyone with details but her responses become short in a frustrated kind of way and she huffs slams doors and sulks about I don t want her to suppress her emotions when something is wrong but I wish she didn t feel the need to wear them so proudly and I especially wish she wouldn t punish everyone around her when she s in a mood What can I say to her about this Moody Roomie Related Articles Miss Manners How can I keep my outings a secret from the neighbors Dear Abby I m invariably in the other grandparents shadow Asking Eric We were left in the corner amid the hoopla for our son s wife Harriette Cole My partner s excuse is he s tired from work I don t believe him Miss Manners I can t be expected to help every lady with her carry-on bag DEAR MOODY ROOMIE Although your roommate s moods are hard for you at least you can see that her behavior is not personal She is dealing with something separate from you If accomplishable be compassionate Tell her you love her and hope she can find peace You can also acknowledge that it is hard for you to be around her when she is in a dark place You don t have a sense of when these moods are going to hit her and her behavior does impact you and everyone else around her Ask her if she has the awareness to tell you that she s having a hard day If she could do that it would help you to know how to be with her Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams You can send questions to askharriette harriettecole com or c o Andrews McMeel Syndication Walnut St Kansas City MO