Dear Abby: My boyfriend embarrassed me by demanding I apologize to another shopper

DEAR ABBY My boyfriend embarrassed me when he stated me to apologize to a woman standing behind him in line at the sphere Related Articles Dear Abby I m smitten but people tell me I m delusional about this man Dear Abby It s none of my fiance s business how much I spend Dear Abby The men I want to date vanish as soon as I tell them the truth Dear Abby A false accusation destroyed our friendship Should I give it a second chance Dear Abby The secret about my husband has turned my world upside down We were at the front of the checkout line when I reported I d run to get an item I had forgotten It took less than a minute and the order was still being rung up when I got back He ordered me loudly to apologize to the woman standing in line behind him Abby he was still paying She wasn t even in line when I went to get the mustard and I assumed he had recounted her he was waiting for me It s not the first time he s done something like this I don t think I did anything wrong and even if I did he could have stated me privately and not made me feel like a misbehaving child I would feel different if we had both left our items unattended but he hadn t I thought he was holding the line for me NOT A CHILD IN FLORIDA DEAR NOT A CHILD If there had been a long line I can understand that running back to fetch the mustard might have caused a serious inconvenience Because there wasn t your boyfriend should not have embarrassed you the way he did Since it wasn t the first time he has done something like this assume that he derives satisfaction from doing it Think hard about whether you really want a future with a partner like him I know I wouldn t DEAR ABBY I have hemifacial spasm HFS a relatively rare disorder characterized by random and uncontrollable spasms on one side of the face HFS makes social contact challenging when the face contorts for no apparent reason sometimes with accompanying speech slurring It can sometimes be alleviated through surgery and or treated with Botox injections In my episode surgery was unsuccessful and my only option is Botox which leaves one eye wider open and my mouth unable to move naturally or smile on one side I m learning to accept this facial asymmetry as my new normal but I m not there yet I m self-conscious about having my photo taken but camera-wielders insist and persist Can you help me with a response I can use to those photo-takers who refuse to take no for an answer or worse tell me to just smile something I can no longer do SELF-CONSCIOUS IN THE MIDWEST Related Articles Asking Eric My husband is so snide just because I want to get places on time Dear Abby I m smitten but people tell me I m delusional about this man Asking Eric I know what to do about my daughter s childhood friend but I feel bad Harriette Cole I called my friend out for acting strange and she left the party Miss Manners She keeps saying we need to go out and get crazy I absolutely do not want to DEAR SELF-CONSCIOUS I have several suggestions about your challenge The first is that not everyone is equally talented in administering Botox Is the person administering yours a dermatologist Whether the answer to this question is yes or no it might benefit you to consult more than one Because you are sensitive about having your picture taken point out to the picture-taker that either you prefer not to be photographed and why or explain that you will not be expressing satisfaction for obvious reasons Another thought Consider positioning yourself so your more photogenic side faces the camera as a multitude of celebrities do when they are petitioned to pose Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA